I was recently presented with an incredible opportunity to accept a management position for a global communications company. Sounds great, right? The only drawback to this is - it's located in Germany. That in and of itself doesn't present a problem; afterall, I am still a German citizen and free to go anywhere within Europe for work or otherwise.

My son however, is not so thrilled with the prospect of moving across the big ocean and starting a whole new life. No matter how much money and perks they toss at me - my son is still going to be on the losing end.

Do I have the right to ask him to give up his friends, start a new school and learn a new language? No matter how wonderful Europe is and how much I know he would love it, eventually I think he would resent me for exerting parental control and forcing him to move.

Then of course is the matter of - what would I do with my house? Relocation assistance is great, but in the current cold real estate market I would most likely end up having to pay a mortgage in the US while I try to establish myself in Germany.

Ah let's not forget tax and citizenship implications. If I leave now, I may not be allowed to retain resident status. Is a great job really worth giving up 20 of my everything I've worked so hard for?

If I were alone, without children that is, I wouldn't think twice about this. I'd jump on the chance to move to Europe and have a challenging position that will allow me to grow. The globetrotter in me would gladly hand over management of my property to folks that can handle it.

Alas, I don't think I can do it to my son. I can't be selfish in this instance and only think about what I want. I debated it long and hard all weekend long, I was truly torn. First, I was giddy and happy at the prospect but after talking with my son about it, it was clear that he was not that thrilled.

It's a good thing my name is not Susan Smith.